Signs that your dating

He was surprisingly honest when she asked him over email if he was married. He would move onto his next victim, leaving Joan with so many unanswered questions—it’s easy to ghost someone when they can only contact you through a secondary email account that you never use.

He offered no details, except to cry mea culpa and wrote back, “You got me. He was out of her life as quickly as he came into it.“Why are men such assholes? Why was it so easy to find a never-ending surplus of assholes everywhere you’d turn? We would see how easy, or maybe how hard it would end up being to stick to the men detox plan.

If so, Lawson argues that this is another form of escapism and a sign that you could be dating the wrong person: ‘People in dysfunctional relationships often lose their sense of themselves.

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Warning sign number one: He gave Joan a hotmail address as the only way to contact him.“He doesn’t have Gmail? “That’s suspicious.”“I think it’s kind of old-fashioned. I feel like we’re writing love letters back and forth, like he’s a solider off at war somewhere.”“Well, technically it a long distance relationship, you have to take a boat to get there,” I joked.“I know! I didn’t want to dash her romantic dreams, but I was assuming she had never taken the Staten Island Ferry before.

I’d hung on to my old AOL account as if it were an old phone number I didn’t want to get rid of. ”Warning sign number four: She didn’t even have enough information to Google him.

It was a sentimental attachment, rather than one of convenience. Sure enough, when it came to Jimmy, she was on a first-name-only basis.“Does he ever pay for things with a credit card? It’s another one of his old school quirks.” But Joan was starting to sound less sure of herself. The signs were all there, and thanks to the illustrious years I spent working as an exotic dancer, I knew all the tricks.

Oddly enough, many of the men who came into the gentlemen’s club where I used to work happily divulged how they’d deceive their significant others.

The red flags are often there, waving in the air in front of us it’s just a matter whether or not we chose to actually see them.

Joan’s short-lived fling fizzled after the pointed email we crafted together.

And not in that whole “oh, they’re my soulmate and my BFF” kinda way, but like, your friend.

In a perfect world, you’d approach this person, and tell them that you just want to be the greatest of friends, and then they’d laugh and tell you they felt the same way. Especially if you’re pretty sure that you and your partner aren’t exactly living the fairy tale romance you’ve been holding out for.

Having once been a serial cheater and self-confessed love addict, Persia Lawson spoke to .

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